Fall Trends I’m Loving

Fall is here! If you’re looking for something to inspire your makeup routine, these fun trends might give you a reason to break out your brushes.

GLOSSY LIPS

It’s no secret that I love a good glossy lip. Fall has traditionally been a time for dark, matte lips but you can pry my lipgloss from my cold, dead hands. I am loving the Pat McGrath Lip Fetish Divinyl lip glosses, as well as the new Tower 28 Beauty milky glosses. Can’t go wrong with either!

GRAPHIC LINER

I am so obsessed with graphic liner. I honestly think that this started as a Tik Tok trend but has since made it’s way to the general masses (and was even on a lot runways this season, as you can see in Gigi Hadid’s IG post).

This is a great inexpensive eyeliner to try if you’re wanting to experiment with graphic eyeliner without the costly commitment.

TERRA COTTA TONES

There are few things in life that I love more than terra cotta makeup looks. I wear some variation of a terra cotta shadow on my eyes every single day, regardless of the season. I love these Natasha Denona palettes (the face + eyeshadow palettes!) and I also am obsessed with these Rare Beauty lip souffles (the shade Brave is my favorite). Terra cotta is flattering on essentially every skintone and is such a fun and easy way to transition into fall.

MONOCHROMATIC ROSE

If terra cotta isn’t your thing, it’s hard to go wrong with a rose look. Right now, I am obsessed with rose-hued monochromatic makeup looks it looks so beautiful, trendy and put together without really putting in an abundance of effort. Charlotte Tilbury’s Walk of No Shame collection has everything you need for a monochromatic rose look, or if you’re looking on a budget, this Color Pop palette is only $8 and is crazy good quality. Pair with a rosy lip (you know I love CT Pillow Talk but this Flower Beauty lipstick in Spiced Petal is almost an exact dupe for a fraction of the cost.

DRAPING

If you follow me on Instagram (which you should!), I recently talked about bronzer and blush placement (and how you should place them horizontally if you’re going for a truly sun-kissed look). Draping is basically the opposite of that. Do you remember a few years ago when highlighting got rebranded to “strobing” and was used exclusively instead of bronzing/contouring? This is similar. Draping is when you don’t use bronzer to contour, you use blush to bring structure to your face. To “drape,” you’ll want to place your blush on your cheekbones instead of the apples of your cheeks, and blend out toward your temples. This can look super high fashion if you use an intense color or really intensify the pigment, but I think it’s really pretty when done correctly and I actually especially like it combined with the monochromatic rose look.

Sidenote: My mom has been draping since the 80s, so I’m going to need to let her know she’s a trendsetter!

FOX EYES

From PDO threads to shaving off the majority of your eyebrow, people have gone to extreme lengths to get the Hadid-inspired fox eye. Turns out, you can get a similar effect with just eyeliner! There are tons of tutorials on social media from Instagram to Youtube, but the basic idea is to use a soft brown liner and false lashes to create an elongated shape.

TL;DR

Fun fall trends have me inspired to try more than just new makeup products, but new looks and techniques too. Since I’ve spent the better part of the year at home with a bare face, this is a welcome change of pace. Any new looks you’re interested in trying? Let me know!

I want to see a therapist. Now what?

We’ve heard it a million times in the past six months—we’re living in unprecedented times. While that phrase is now the bane of my existence, it’s true. Our lives collectively changed in March and even the most stable, mentally healthy people are having a hard time. This stuff isn’t normal. It’s OK to be scared and stressed and at the end of your rope. It’s OK if you’re looking for a little help with managing the stress of COVID (or just the problems you already had before this all started).

I see a therapist once a week—and I have for a year. When I first started seeing a therapist, I went into the whole situation blind. I had no idea how to go about finding a provider, or what to expect, so I decided to take all my lessons learned and pass them onto you, the reader, who may be interested in therapy but unsure of where to start.

Let’s walk through some common questions and concerns that people have when they want the help of a therapist, but don’t know what to do or what to expect.

HOW DO I KNOW IF I NEED A THERAPIST?

The American Psychological Association suggests considering therapy when something causes distress and interferes with some part of life, particularly when:

  • Thinking about or coping with the issue takes up at least an hour each day
  • The issue causes embarrassment or makes you want to avoid others
  • The issue has caused your quality of life to decrease
  • The issue has negatively affected school, work, or relationships
  • You’ve made changes in your life or developed habits to cope with the issue

The more honest answer is: there is no magic ticket for therapy. Whether you’re going through something difficult, or searching for better ways to cope with the stressors of everyday life, therapy is for everyone and anyone. Here’s the deal: there’s nothing wrong with needing help—or with admitting that you need help. Honestly, recognizing that you need support is one of the biggest hurdles. So if you’ve already done that then, kudos. You’re well on your way to taking better care of yourself.

I FEEL EMBARRASSED

Spoiler alert: no one has to know that you’re seeing a therapist because it’s no one else’s business but your own. Seriously. When I first started going to therapy, there were maybe like 3-4 that I shared that with. It simply wasn’t something that I felt people needed to know. I wasn’t necessarily embarrassed about it, per se, but I wasn’t wanting to shout it from the rooftops, either. Now, I talk very openly about seeing a therapist, including routinely uttering the phrase “my therapist said…” LOL

If you’re feeling embarrassed, I get it. There have been huge strides toward normalizing mental health care, thanks in part to hilarious tweets like these, but unfortunately there is still a stigma attached to it—despite the fact that half of us will have a serious psychological problem at some point in our lives.

If you’re feeling embarrassed at the thought of sharing your struggles and issues with a therapist, don’t be. I found it really difficult to open up to my therapist at first, but she was patient with me and made my experience worthwhile. A (good) therapist will never make your problems feel small or insignificant. They might not be able to solve all your problems, but they’ll help you to think more objectively and (hopefully) see the cause and effect behind your behavior, actions and feelings.

HOW DO I FIND A THERAPIST?

Once you’ve decided that you want to see a therapist, you’ll need to find someone to actually see. This part can be really daunting and was one of the biggest hurdles that I faced. If you feel comfortable, you can reach out to friends or family members who may be able to recommend someone to you. If that isn’t something that you want to do (no judgement) or that isn’t an option, you can find providers on the Psychology Today website. All you have to do is type in either the city name or zip code of where you want to see a provider and choose an option from the drop down, and you’ll be given an aggregate list of providers in your area.

HOW DO I CHOOSE A THERAPIST THAT’S RIGHT FOR ME?

There are a lot of things to consider when you start looking for a therapist. Do they accept your insurance (if you have it)? If you don’t have insurance, do they charge on a sliding scale based on what you can afford? Would you feel more comfortable with a male or female provider? Are you looking for someone faith-based? (I specifically was looking for someone who was not faith-based.) You want someone who is going to meet your needs and make you feel comfortable, so these are things to take into consideration.

My first therapist was not a good fit for me. She spent most of our sessions talking about herself, her children or her online boyfriend who lives in India. She gave me very bad advice, violated HIPAA on more than one occasion, and just overall was not helpful to me. Despite the fact that I didn’t know anything about therapy, I knew it was not a good fit.

My current therapist let me know right away that she had worked with many clients who were dealing with the same issues that I was. She talked to me about her credentials, her training and what I could expect. Most importantly, she let me be myself. I swear all the time in therapy. I make constant pop culture references, i.e., “I just feel like Rachel Green when she said…” and I feel comfortable. That’s the biggest goal: to be able to be comfortable, honest and authentic with your provider so that they can help you!

WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT FOR MY FIRST APPOINTMENT?

I remember my first therapy appointment clear as day because it coincided with one of the hardest, saddest days of my life. I walked into her room, sat on her couch and burst into tears. Not only was I having a terrible day, I was scared shitless. I had willing signed up to sit on a strangers couch and tell them my life problems while they took notes. I calmed down (a little) and told her between sobs what was happening and why I was so profoundly sad.

The first few therapy sessions are mainly just to gather history. It starts out pretty general and will get much more in-the-weeds as time goes on. You’ll talk a lot about yourself, your family, friends and close relationships. You’ll talk about whatever is bothering you, or whatever the specific issue that brought you into therapy in the first place is. You’ll talk about your feelings, your thoughts and your behaviors, but you’re mainly just getting to know each other for the first few sessions.

IT MIGHT GET WORSE BEFORE IT GETS BETTER

One thing that I wasn’t prepared for when I started going to therapy was how exhausted it made me feel. I would feel so incredibly tired after each session, all I wanted to do was go home and crawl into bed.

Another thing I wasn’t prepared for was how sad I would feel afterward—and sometimes I still do. I always thought that going to therapy would make me feel better—and overall, it does—but it’s hard work and it requires an intense amount of vulnerability. Sometimes when you’re doing the hard work and digging deep, you’ll tap into emotions that you may not even realized are there.

When I started seeing my therapist it was because I was going through something extremely difficult and having a very hard time processing it. I’ll never forget a conversation I had with her during our second session. She asked me if I had noticed anything different that week.

“Yes, I did,” I told her. “I can’t stop crying.”

“Do you know why that is?” she asked me.

“I have no idea,” I said through tears.

“Emily, it’s because you’re sad.”

It sounds so dumb. I knew that I was sad. That’s why I went to therapy in the first place. But it wasn’t until I started talking to her and really exploring those feelings that I allowed myself to feel as devastatingly sad as I truly was.

If the idea of feeling worse before you can feel better is slightly freaking you out, please don’t take that as a deterrent. If you’re tapping into those things, it’s a sign that you’re doing the hard work required to feel better and it’s actually a really good thing (believe it or not, those tough emotions are likely already popping up in your life in other ways, whether you realize it or not). As you continue to talk to your therapist, you’ll eventually start to feel better.

YOU’RE NOT THERE TO GET ADVICE

For a long time, I was operating under the belief that going to therapy was like paying someone to either a) tell you what you should do or b) tell you what you want to hear. Turns out, neither of those things are true!

Basically each therapy session is an exercise in problem solving. You’ll tell your therapist what’s bothering you and how it makes you feel, and they’ll use their expertise to help you reach a solution. They won’t say “oh, you should definitely choose A instead of B.” If that’s what you’re looking for, a therapist might be able to help you unpack why you someone to tell you what to do/validate your choice in the first place.

IS IT WEIRD TO GO TO THERAPY ONLINE?

Because of COVID, many appointments have shifted to online (although some therapists are seeing patients in person again at this point). I was a little concerned about the switch from an in office visit to a video chat, but I realized that there isn’t much difference. However, at the end of the day whether or not this is a good fit for you will depend on your personality and preferences.

TL;DR

The only reason that I ever sought the help of a therapist was because I had people in my life who saw therapists and talked openly and honestly about it. There’s nothing wrong with going to therapy and you should never feel awkward, embarrassed or ashamed. If you ever have any questions about therapy, please feel free to reach out!

If you’d like to find a therapist, search Psychology Today for providers in your area. If you’re feeling suicidal, please reach out to the National Suicide Prevention lifeline by calling 1-800-273-8522 or by visiting their website.

Weekly Roundup: Detangler for long hair, Violet Grey order + more

I routinely do a monthly favorites post where I talk about the things that I have tried and loved throughout the month. That post only ever captures the products or things that stood out as my favorites—but I use and try so many other things that I don’t end up talking about that I decided to start doing a weekly spotlight in addition to my monthly favorites. Keep reading for my first roundup!

Long Sexy Hair Luxe Nourishing Leave-In Detangler

I have long hair—and a lot of it—but it’s very fine and it gets tangled very easily. A few years ago I discovered 7 Seconds by Unite haircare and promptly stopped searching for anything else. It was a the end-all-be-all of leave in conditioners. Long Sexy Hair gifted me their new detangler, the Long Sexy Hair Luxe Nourishing Leave-In detangler, so I started using that this week. I had very low expectations but I was blown away by how well it works. It was made specifically for people with either long natural hair or extensions. It works really well and also smells really nice. I’m going to keep testing this out, but I haven’t reached for 7 Seconds in almost a week (which is unheard of because I have used it every day for at least 3 years).

Nars Soft Matte Complete Foundation

I had terrible skin for years and as a result only wore the thickest, most full coverage, most matte foundations I could find. I was basically waking up and spackling my face every morning. Thanks to my friend Jennifer, my skin is completely changed and I wear all sorts of base makeup, CC cream, BB cream, tinted moisturizer, medium-fo-full coverage foundation—I have so many choices now. For some reason, when I saw the Nars Soft Matte Complete Foundation, I was like, “I need that! It’s everything I want in a foundation.” My friend Taylor, the manager at the Sephora in Eastwood Towne Center, was like, “just so you know this is matte. Like, really, really matte,” and I thought “ok, no problem!” Turns out, she was right. It is much more matte and much more full coverage than I am used to wearing now. I think if I mixed it with a moisturizer or used a glowy primer I would like it much better. I’m going to keep testing out because I haven’t used it enough times or tried it with enough different products to really give my final verdict on this yet. Stay tuned.

Pat McGrath Lip Fetish Divnyl Lip Shine

I bought this on a whim at Sephora one day, mainly because I was so excited that my Sephora had anything Pat McGrath. I got it in the shade Nude Venus because you really can’t go wrong with a good nude lip. Honestly, this is one of the best lip products I have tried in forever! It is so good. It is so shiny, so moisturizing, so buttery. It makes your lips look so plump and juicy. I think I’ve worn it every single day since I got it. This is going to be a favorite for sure.

Westman Atelier Super Loaded Tinted Highlight

Coming in at a mouth-dropping $75 for 0.14 ounces of product, this is officially the most expensive highlighter that I own. I got it during the Violet Grey sale, so I saved some money but still. Westman Atelier is a luxury clean and cruelty free beauty brand owned by the iconic makeup artist Gucci Westman. The brand claims that they “cater to those looking to enhance their complexion while elevating their vanity.” I got this highlighter in the shade Peau de Peche (which I found out translates to peach skin lol). Everything about it is extremely luxe. The product itself comes in a leather dust bag. The component is black with gunmetal accents. It’s only 0.14 ounces of product but it feels like a brick—very heavy and substantial. The product itself is just *chefs kiss.* It is so gorgeous. I have only used it a few times, but I know that it’s going to be a staple—and listen. We appreciate a pretentious luxe moment around here, okay? Life is short, you have to indulge sometimes.

We Should All Be Mirandas

If you know me, you’ll know that I love Sex and the City. I have every season on DVD (the one that came in a pink velvet collector’s box), I went on the SATC bus tour when I was in NYC, I have a t-shirt that says “abso-fucking-lutely” and I rewatch the show at least once a year (and always when I’m sad). The show is nothing short of iconic and I won’t apologize for how much I enjoy it. The women behind the IG account @everyoutfitonsatc wrote a book called “We Should All Be Mirandas” and it is just as wonderful as you might imagine. If you order the book right now, you also get a magnet that looks like a sticky note that says. “I’m sorry. I can’t. Don’t hate me” for free! I consider this to be one of my best purchases to date.

Gum Drop Grapes

Speaking of luxe. I recently ordered some grapes from Kroger that I later realized are called “gum drop grapes.” They are from the same grapery as Cotton Candy grapes, but far superior. They literally taste like candy. As someone who is watching their diet, these sweet little succulent grapes have become my daily treat. They are expensive (about $3.49 per pound) but they are so, so worth it.

TL;DR

In addition to my monthly favorites, I’m doing a weekly roundup of things I’m trying, using and loving (or not). Have you tried any of these things? I mean, TBH, if you get one thing make it the grapes! I need people to talk about the grapes with lolol.

Buy or Bye: Rare Beauty by Selena Gomez

Up until about a week ago I was entirely ambivalent about Rare Beauty. I don’t really have strong feelings about Selena Gomez one way or another—if I’m being honest my favorite thing she had done prior to this was not get back together with Justin Bieber—and I really didn’t think we needed another celebrity beauty brand. However, after seeing rave reviews from every corner of the internet I headed into my local Sephora to see what the fuss was about.

RARE BEAUTY

Selena Gomez launched Rare Beauty earlier this month on Sept. 3. The brand launched almost an entire face of products, including foundation, concealer, blush, highlighter, brow products, lip products and more. It’s been awhile since I’ve been excited by a new launch, but Rare Beauty has impressed me in more ways than one. Read on for my honest (non-sponsored, non-gifted) thoughts.

THE PACKAGING

One of the first things that attracted me to Rare Beauty was the packaging. The ball on the top of the packages was unlike anything that I had seen before—and it turns out the ball on top is more than just a chic component. The packaging was actually designed specifically with people who suffer from arthritis in mind, because Selena has lupus (rheumatoid arthritis is a common comorbidity of lupus).

I’m really inspired by the intentionally of the entire product range. Selena saw a gap in the market and filled it with something beautiful (and affordable).

LOOK GOOD, FEEL GOOD

Another interesting thing about Rare Beauty is that Selena has pledged to donate $100 million dollars to mental health initiatives over the next 10 years. Selena has struggled very openly with depression, anxiety and mental health issues, and it’s refreshing to not only be honest about that struggle, but to work to help others deal with it head on, too.

PRODUCTS

I tried just about every product in the line, with the exception of the setting spray, powder product and brow product. Because this post isn’t sponsored and I’m not on Rare Beauty’s PR list, I had to be somewhat selective about what I purchased.

Liquid Touch Weightless Foundation

This foundation comes in 48 different shades, making it one of the most diverse shade ranges on the market. According to the brand, Liquid Touch Weightless Foundation is a natural-finish foundation with concentrated pigments that feels barely there while providing buildable medium-to-full coverage.

This is a true liquid foundation. In fact, it feels almost like a gel or a face serum to me. While most foundations claim to be “weightless” this is one of the only foundations, if not THE only foundation, that I have ever found to actually feel weightless. In fact, I actually forgot that I had it on.

And while it isn’t the most sanitary thing in the world, I do appreciate the doe foot applicator for it’s ease of application.

Liquid Touch Brightening Concealer

I knew that I loved the foundation right away, but I had (and still have) mixed feelings on the concealer. For one, I think I got the wrong shade. Not being able to test things really sucks. Secondly, no concealer in the world can possibly compare to my beloved Charlotte Tilbury Magic Wonder concealer.

That being said, there are also 48 shades of the concealer, with each concealer shade designed to work with its corresponding foundation shade. This concealer is pretty thick and creamy, but it sheers out nicely and offers good coverage without feeling heavy or looking cake-y. It also doesn’t settle into fine lines or crease.

Positive Light Liquid Luminizer

I love highlighter so it’s no surprise that I wanted to pick this up. Like the other products in the range, this offers a wide variety of shades that will suit any skin tone. I got the shade Outshine which is a true gold. I wasn’t sure that it would work for me, but it blends out beautifully. I think that this is a good natural to moderately glow-y highlight. It’s not the most blinding thing you’ve ever sheen, but leaves a nice sheen on your cheekbones.

Pro tip: Blend fast. This stuff dries down quickly and can leave you with stripes on your cheeks if you don’t blend fast enough.

Soft Pinch Liquid Blush

This blush is SO good. I mean, it’s just *chef’s kiss.* I love cream and liquid blushes because they look so natural. This one is no exception. You need a tiny little bit of product, I mean tiiiiny. Apply it to the apples of you cheeks and blend outward toward the hairline with your fingers. You’re left with the glowiest, rosiest cheeks like maybe you’re slightly embarrassed or someone’s grandma just gave them a quick pinch. If you’re interested in buying something from the line but can’t choose, I would suggest starting here.

Lip Souffle Matte Lip Cream

My favorite product in the line are these lip souffles. They have the strangest texture of any lip product that I have ever used. They go on liquid and then dry down to an almost powder finish. I got four shades, including the super bright red shade that Selena is wearing in the promos. They stay on forever and even when they wear off, they leave a wonderful stain on your lips. 10/10 recommend.

Pro tip: If you want to be the kind of person who wears bright lipstick but don’t feel like you can pull it off, now is the time to start. Wear it around your house or under your mask! You can get over feeling self-conscious so when we can safely leave our houses and mingle again, you’ll be confident AF.

TL;DR

Rare Beauty kind of blew me away. I wasn’t expecting to like these products at all, let alone by this impressed by them. They are made intentionally and inclusively, from the impressive shade range to the packaging designed to be easily opened by everyone. PLUS, nothing in the line costs more than $30, which we all know is essentially unheard of for a brand in Sephora.

Buy or Bye: Gucci Bronzer

This bronzer came out a few months ago and I knew, based on the packaging alone, I needed it. Is the product worth the $62 price tag? Let’s discuss.

DOING THE MOST

I bought the Gucci Poudre De Beaute Eclat Soliel Bronzing Powder bronzer directly from Gucci and it arrived within 2 days (the perks of luxury retailers!). The bronzer arrived in a box, inside of a Gucci bag, inside of a Gucci dust bag, inside of a velvet pouch. It was like a Russian doll of Gucci-branded packaging. I wasn’t mad about it though, it made me feel rich LOL.

PRODUCT DEETS

As part of their expanding beauty line, Gucci launched their Gucci Poudre De Beaute Eclat Soliel Bronzing Powder earlier this year. It retails for $62 and is available in 5 different shades.

The packaging is gorgeous and—as I mentioned earlier—the first thing that drew my attention to the product. The compact is a beautiful mirrored component with a turquoise and gold design. This is the kind of product that you can leave out on your vanity as decor—it’s that pretty. Each bronzer also comes with a flat blush that is housed in a compartment on the bottom of the compact. Gucci or not, the brushes that come with products always suck. I kept the brush, but won’t use it.

The shade range is a little weird to me. I ended up buying shade 03 because, at least online, it appeared to be lighter than shade 02. Thankfully, it works well for my skin tone and I have no complaints.

I’m kind of picky when it comes to bronzer bronzer. What does that mean? It means that I don’t want something cool-toned that is going to work as a contour. I also don’t want something that’s too red-toned that’s either going to make me look sunburnt (we like natural but not too natural, you feel me?) or muddy. What I look for in bronzers is a medium-toned bronze color that is going to make me look sun kissed and naturally flushed, like I spent a long weekend at the beach (which won’t happen without SPF and sun protection because I spend too much on skincare to throw it all away).

This bronzer does a good job of achieving that look. It’s silky and smooth on the skin and is buildable, depending on how sun-kissed you want to look.

COMPARISONS

This is a good bronzer. It goes on nicely; it’s finely milled and never muddy—but how does this stack up in comparison to other bronzers?

I like trying new products for the sake of trying new products. I also do it as a service for my readers (you’re welcome!). Do you need this? No. Are there other bronzers that work just as well and cost less. Yes. Let’s do a break down of some of my favorite bronzers and a few cost saving alternatives.

Physician’s Formula Butter Bronzer

I think this might be one of the closest dupes and it’s a fraction of the cost.

Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Matte Bronzer

These two bronzers are quite similar in formula, application and feel. The CT bronzer is still expensive, but would save you a couple bucks off the retail price of the Gucci bronzer.

Benefit Hoola Bronzer

From shade range to formulation, the Gucci bronzer gives me some Hoola vibes. I would say that colors are similar but the Gucci bronzer is slightly more finely milled. However, you could buy entire Benefit palette for the cost of one Gucci bronzer, so do with that what you will.

TL;DR

The new Gucci bronzer is a great bronzer if you’re willing to spend nearly $70 on a bronzer. If not, there are other great options out there, too! What’s the most you’re willing to spend on luxury makeup? Let me know!

August Favorites

Happy September, friends! Because I’m nosey and love reading what other people purchase, use and love, I decided to get back on the bandwagon and do my own monthly favorites again. If you’re interested in the hodgepodge of random things that I used throughout the last month, keep reading!

BEAUTY

This is a beauty blog, so it only makes sense that I start out with beauty products.

Glow Recipe Papaya Sorbe Enzyme Cleansing Balm

I have a very specific skincare routine and I’m extremely particular about the products I use on my face. I have been using the Elemis Pro-Collagen cleansing balm for months, but finally ran out and bought this during the Sephora sale and I love it. I use it as the first step in my double cleanse routine and it removes all my makeup very nicely without leaving any kind of weird residue. The only downside for me is that I don’t love the glass jar. I’m extremely accident prone and prefer the plastic packaging of the Elemis makeup remover. While it feels like it’s much smaller than other makeup removing balms, it has 3.4 ounces of product, compared to Elemis’ 3.7—and it’s half the price, so not a bad deal. The smell is a little childish and reminds me of Smacker’s lip balm or Trix yogurt (I said childish but I also didn’t say I disliked since I am big fans of both those things).

Overall,  9/10. I will continue to use and would recommend but don’t love the glass jar.

Anastasia Beverly Hills Lip Stain

I love a good lip stain. I don’t think this is technically a new product, I think this is a reformulation. I could be imagining this, but I could have sworn that ABH had a lip stain back in the day and discontinued it. Anyway, I got the shade Rosewood because there is no such thing as too many pinky-brown nudes. I like this product—well, I don’t hate it. I think that the shade ends up being way more pink than nude on me but my biggest complaint is the smell. I am extremely sensitive to smells and I didn’t like this one. I, did, however, appreciate that my lips were stained all day.

Overall, I would give it a 6/10. I’ll use it again but not sure that I would repurchase.

Ouai x Byredo Super Dry Shampoo Mojave Ghost

I don’t really buy dry shampoo because I wash my hair every day, but I do occasionally use it to add texture or grit to my hair. I really like this because I love the scent. It’s extremely fragrant and it lasts all day long. If you like Mojave Ghost and don’t want to spend $200 on it, I highly recommend picking this up. Or if could have the reverse effect on you like it did on me. I spend $24 on dry shampoo and now want the perfume itself. Buyer beware.

Overall, 9/10. I love love it, but its inspiring some bad spending decisions 

Saint Jane Beauty Bright Repair CBD Eye Cream

I love this stuff. I was talking to my esthetician about wanting to add an eye cream into my routine since I am creeping up on my 27th birthday and want to prevent wrinkles before they happen vs. treating them once they are already there. She told me that right now I really want something that will hydrate the area. I had been eyeing this one (pun intended) on the Saint Jane website and when I saw it in my Sephora I snagged the last one they had in stock. It works great, doesn’t upset my eyes at all, hasn’t caused any milia and (I think) makes me look a little more awake and refreshed.

10/10 will continue to use and repurchase.

EM Cosmetics Soft Blur Velvet Lip Liners

I love these so much I wrote an entire blog about them. I have never loved and will never love another lip liner as much as I love these. They are so good. Perfect in every way. They offer nude lip liner options for a variety of skin tones. So velvety and butter-smooth but with great staying power. If you want to try them, I suggest you get on it before I buy all of them to hoard so I never run out.

10/10 would shout my love for these from the rooftops. 

LIFESTYLE

Insecure

My friend Andrea mentioned on a Thursday that she loved this show and by Sunday I had binge-watched all four seasons. IT IS SO GOOD. I am so invested. I need Season 5 to happen immediately.

10/10 want to be BFFs with Issa (and sleep with Andrew?)

Decorative Objects & Coffee Table Books

I’ve been trying to up my home decor game lately (blog post coming soon!). One of my favorite pieces that I’ve purchased has been this limestone knot from Target x Studio McGee. I was looking at objects similar to this that cost MUCH more than this at CB2 and West Elm, so this was such a great find. It comes in and out of stock, so if you’re interested just sign up for emails!

I also purchased some fun coffee table books from Amazon that I had been eyeing for months that finally dropped in price, including this Architectural Digest book and this iconic Tom Ford book.

At Home Sweet Cream Foam Ice Coffee

I really like the Vanilla Sweet Cream Cold Brew from Starbucks but don’t like paying for it, so I made it myself at home. I previously talked about how I make my own iced coffee at home to save money. If that isn’t your thing, Starbucks has cold brew you can purchase from any grocery store (I usually get it at Target or Kroger). I also picked up some Coffee-Mate Natural Bliss Sweet Cream Coffee Creamer. To make a dupe of the drink, just froth the creamer until it doubles in size and then pour into the coffee. Et voila!

Aesop Hand Wash

This is an extravagant purchase and it was probably stupid to spend $40 on soap but I love it and I’m washing my hands all the time because of COVID—that’s my justification. It looks fancy on my bathroom counter and I appreciate the smell and the exfoliating properties. Will I repurchase? The jury is out.

Aerie 

I recently picked up two of Aerie’s oversized crewneck sweatshirts and a pair of joggers and I am in love. I got the sweatshirts in camo (Olive Fun) and Olive Daze because I love green and didn’t have anything like these. I almost didnt buy the joggers because they were just straight sizes but I went for it anyway and they fit great! They are so, so soft and have a fold over waistband AND pockets. They don’t really do anything in terms of shaping or keeping everything sucked in but I’m looking for comfort at this point, since I’m sure I’ll be home alone for another 6 months.

The sweatshirt is oversized so you could size down if you want a more fitted look, but I would recommend sticking with your normal size since it’s supposed to be a little looser. If you buy any of these or have any more Aerie recommendations, let me know!

Friends

I know this is cheesy, but having spent nearly 6 months in total isolation, I have started to see my friends in moderation lately and it has been so wonderful. I feel like my social skills have deteriorated and I am not a social mutant but my friends are accepting of me no matter how weird I get. Invite me to your outdoor patio hangs (but don’t be offended if I decline as I am still worried about getting COVID and will be for a long time).

TL;DR

I have been trying and using a lot of new things lately and have been quite pleased with my purchases. What are some things that you’re using and loving lately? Let me know!

I bought all these things with my own money, but some links are affiliate links meaning I make a small commission if you purchase through them. Also, I took that glorious sunflower photo myself.

 

 

 

EM Cosmetics Soft Blur: The Best Lip Liners You’ll Ever Buy

I’ve written in great detail about my love for Michelle Phan and her company, Em Cosmetics. It should come as no surprise that I am smitten with her new lip liners, the Soft Blur Velvet Lip Liners.

THE PRODUCT

Last month, em cosmetics launched their very first lip liners, the Soft Blur Velvet Lip Liners. The product claims to be an innovative, blurring lip liner that is moisturizing and delivers a luscious velvet finish. I own more lip liners than any person should legally be allowed to have, so I had pretty high expectations when it comes to this product—but at the same time I kind of felt like, “it’s a lip liner, how different could it really be?”

 

SHADE RANGE & PRICE POINT

The shade range here is pretty good and I feel confident that most if not all skin tones could find a shade that works for them, since they are essentially just a variation of different nude shades.  There are five shades in the range, including:

  • Fawn –  a peach nude with neutral undertones.
  • Bunny – a pink nude with neutral undertones.
  • Kitten – a rose nude with neutral undertones.
  • Teddy – a brown nude with warm undertones.
  • Mink – a brown nude with cool undertones.

The product retails for $19 each, or you can get a set of all 5 for $75. 

THE CLAIMS

  • Formulated with Sachi Inchi oil, Squalane, Shea Nut oil, and vitamin E to help condition the lips
  • Enriched with bisabolol to help provide antioxidant defense and ease inflammation
  • No harsh lines, feathering or waxy finishes
  • Cruelty-free

THE VERDICT

I picked up the shades Fawn and Kitten because they looked like they would be closest to my actual lip color. The only downside of purchasing makeup online is that you can’t swatch it beforehand, which, when it comes to lip liner, is pretty important to me. These shades ended up being the perfect match for my lips and I have worn this almost every single day since I got it.

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I love makeup (obviously) but it’s honestly impressive that I have such a strong opinion on this. I love this lip liner. At the risk of sounding dramatic, it’s the best lip liner that I have ever used. It goes on smooth, no pulling or tugging, it stays put all day (even under a mask!) and it matches my natural lip color. It’s truly everything you could ask for. And it’s cheaper than my previous “holy grail” lip liner, Charlotte Tilbury’s Iconic Nude Lip Cheat Lip Liner which retails for $22..

TL;DR

If you wear lipliner, this one is 100% worth picking up. If you’re interested, you can purchase it here.

I purchased these products with my own money. This post is not sponsored in any way and I do not make a commission if you purchase through the links provided. 

 

Nordstrom Anniversary Sale 2020: Best in Beauty

The N-Sale? In this economy?! Yep.

Buckle up friends—the Nordstrom Sale is upon us. If you’re a big spender at Nordy’s, you probably already have access to the sale. If you have the credit card but use it sparingly, like me, you’ll likely get access sometime between  August 13-18. Otherwise, the sale opens to the general public on August 19.

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People think that Nordstrom is a snobby store that sells overpriced stuff and in some cases, that is true. However, they sell a lot of things that you can buy at other retailers (think Sephora) that rarely go on sale—and when it goes on sale, it goes If you use this stuff, it would be foolish not to stock up and save some money. Plus, this years sale features markdowns on never before marked down brands like Dr. Barbara Sturm, Briogeo and Olaplex.

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MY TOP N-SALE PICKS

Paula’s Choice Jumbo Size Skin Perfecting 2% BHA Liquid Exfoliant

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I think that every person on the planet could benefit by adding this toner into their skincare routine. It’s a chemical exfoliant that helps to remove dead skin cells, leaving you with brighter, tighter-looking skin (while also helping to get rid of blackheads and shrink the appearance of pores). This is one of my favorite toners of all time, secondly only to Lotion P50.

Pro tip: No cotton round/cotton ball needed. Simply drip some into your hands, rub on your face and continue on with the rest of your skincare routine.

Oribe Dry Texturizing Spray Set

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The Oribe Dry Texturizing Spray has a cult following—and for good reason. You would be hard-pressed to find a dry texturizing spray that works as well as this one does. It gives you hold and texture without being overly sticky or drying. PLUS, you also get a full-size Gold Lust Dry Shampoo. If you use this product regularly or are looking for a good texturizing spray, I recommend picking this up while it’s a better value.

Olaplex Bond Maintenance System Set

Untitled design (23)If you’ve ever read my blog before (or know me in real life) you’ll know that I love Olaplex and sing its praises constantly. You get three FULL-SIZE products in this set! FULL SIZE! Anybody with hair on their head needs Olaplex, especially so if you ever process your hair (color, bleach, etc) or use heat on it. Your hair will feel so silky smooth after using this, you’ll wonder why you didn’t try it before. You can thank me later.

Anastasia Beverly Hills Brows Bae-sics Kit

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Another oldie but goodie. I have genuinely used these brow products for close to 10 years. You really can’t go wrong with this combo. Fill in sparse spots, add shape, arch, length to your tail, etc. with Brow Wiz and then finish up by brushing those babies in to place. You get two full size products for almost the price of one. Will be grabbing one of these for sure. (If you’re not sure how to do your brows, check out my brows for beginners post).

Bobbi Brown Full Size Crushed Lip Duo

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This is another one of my all time favorite lip colors. It is the perfect nude and it works on so many skintones. It gives the perfect flush of color to your lips for when you want to look alive and awake but not “done up.” This would also be the perfect lip for someone who wants to dip their toes into the world of lipstick but isn’t ready for anything bold or bright. I keep on in my purse at all times and also have one for my car that I keep in my glove box when it isn’t one million degrees out.

Pillow Talk Lip Secrets Set

216eba01-55ed-4c4a-80c4-2c5812f1434ePillow Talk is an absolute staple for me. Again, this is one of the products that I have beaten like a dead horse over the duration of my blogging career. I also tell everyone I know IRL that they need this. It’s just that good. This set comes with the lip liner, lipstick and lip gloss for $68 which is essentially like getting one of the products for free. If you’re a Pillow Talk fanatic like myself, or you’re curious about trying it, now is the time to do it.

Diptyque Set of 5 Travel Limited Edition Scented Candles

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This isn’t really a beauty item but I added it anyway. I recently did a blog post about luxury candles and how, IMO, they are worth purchasing. If you want to dip your toes in the world of expensive ass candles, this seems like a really good way to try them without having to commit to one fragrance. It also would be a nice gift to keep on hand. I plan on picking one up.

TL;DR

Those are my Nordstrom Anniversary Sale 2020 Beauty Picks! Anything on this list that you’re planning on picking up? Anything that I didn’t mention that you can’t live without? Let me know!

AT HOME DIP POWDER MANICURE

Prior to COVID-19, I got my nails done every two weeks like clockwork. Once COVID hit, everyone who was used to their religiously scheduled nail appointments rushed out and snagged up every nail supply available. From drills to acetone and everything in between, you were lucky if you could muster up the supplies to do your nails at home.

I was able to hobble my way through at-home gel manicures for the months of March-June, but once the salons opened up, I had my salon on speed-dial, ready to make an appointment.  I was chomping at the bit to have my dip nails back (and to have someone else do it). Except what I left with was not a nice manicure, but rather some horrific duck bill-esque atrocity that barely passed as my own nails. I had them redone at a different salon two days later but decided that maybe doing them at home would ultimately be less money and less hassle.

ROSSI NAILS

I got the Rossi Nails Glam Powder Trial Kit, which includes everything you need to do your own nails at home. It comes with the base coat, activator and top coat, as well as 1-4 powders (depending on which package you choose). Mine only came with one, the shade Honeymoon 001.

THE ESSENTIALS

You will need the following:

    • Cuticle nipper
    • Orange sticks/cuticle pusher
    • Rubbing alcohol
    • Lint-free cotton rounds
    • Dehydrator
    • Base coat
    • Activator
    • Top coat
    • Cuticle oil

 

THE PROCESS

Because I’ve been having my nails done for so long, I felt really comfortable with the idea of doing a dip powder manicure at home. Before I started doing anything with the powder kit, I manicured my nails by trimming them (I like my nails really short), using my cuticle pusher and trimmer and filing them into my preferred shape.

PREP

Once everything looked good, I prepped my nails for the powder by first wiping them down with some rubbing alcohol on a lint-free cotton round, and then I went in with step no. 1, which is actually not included in the kit—a dehydrator. This step is so important because it gets any dust or oil off your nails and sets you up for success (and a longer-lasting manicure).

BASE

Once that was taken care of, I went in with the base coat. I had never thought about it before, but I realized that the base coat is essentially just nail glue. I opted to do one nail at a time because I was worried that I was going too slow and the base would be dry by the time I finished painting all my fingers and made it back around again.

Pro tip: when applying the first layer of base coat, only apply to about 3/4 of nail. Leave the area around your cuticle bare. This helps ensure you don’t over do it!

DIP

Once you have applied the base, you’re ready to start dipping! Dip your finger into the container at a 45-degree angle, pull it out, and gently tap on your finger to get rid of any excess powder. Repeat this on all the remaining fingers, then do it again and again until you’re satisfied with the color. After each coat, go in with big, fluffy brush and make sure wipe away any excess powder from your hands, fingers and the nail plate itself. I ended up doing three layers on my nails to get the desired opacity.

ACTIVATOR

Once you’ve dipped your nails to the desired color, apply a coat of activator. This step is really quick and easy. Actually, the hardest part is waiting until the activator is dry to move onto the next step.

Once the first coat of activator is dry, you can start to buff, shape and file your nails. I used this as a chance to file mine down a little bit because the three coats of dip was making them a thick. This really helped to even the dip out and give me a nice, even surface.

After I had finished filing and shaping my nails, I gave them a quick wipe-down with a lint free pad and some rubbing alcohol. Then, I added the final layer of activator and waited until it was dry.

Pro tip: The box and website say that you only need to wait one minute for the activator to air dry. This is not true. You will need at least 2 minutes, if not three, before it is fully dry. If you don’t wait until the activator is dry to apply the top coat, you will ruin the brush. 

TOP COAT

Whew, you’re in the final stretch! The top coat is the last official step in the dip nail process and is arguably the easiest. You just apply top coat like you would any regular nail polish. I waited about 30 seconds and then applied another coat. I thought my nails were looking good before but once I added the top coat, they looked like they had been done by a professional!

CUTICLE OIL

I have always found cuticle oil to be a necessary evil. I hate using it (or having it used on my nails) because its messy and makes my steering wheel look gross with oil marks. However, it does make a big difference and you shouldn’t ignore your cuticles! I got a cuticle oil pen from Retail Therapy and it has been a game-changer. So easy to use, no mess and smells delicious. I hope Celeste never stops selling these!

PROS/CONS

This kit is easy to use, quick, fun and provides lasting, salon-quality results at home. The con is that the liquids are quite smelly–think nail salon smells. I also had a bad allergic reaction that I will share about in more detail down below. This won’t happen for everyone and likely was caused by a) poor ventilation in my apartment b) the fact that I have terrible allergies and asthma. However, I could not, in good conscience, not include my experience.

FINAL IMPRESSION

I was a little nervous to use this because having dip done at a salon seems like such a long, laborious process. So much dipping, so many layers and so much filing! However, doing it at home was so easy and surprisingly fast. I have always enjoyed doing my nails so I actually found the process to be really fun and enjoyable. I was impressed at how easy it was to use and how good my nails looked, even upon initial application and it was a nice self-care moment for me. The powder stayed really well, didn’t lift or crack and my hair didn’t get stuck underneath it.

THE CAVEAT

Here’s the deal: I genuinely enjoyed this product and would love to continue to use it, but I can’t. The morning after I used this product for the first time, I woke up feeling under the weather. Stuffy, sneezing, runny nose, coughing, tightness in my chest, etc. I felt really tired. I have terrible allergies AND asthma and felt confident that I was allergic to something, I just couldn’t figure out what. I mainlined allergy medicine all day, even taking more than the recommended dosage because nothing seemed to help. I felt the same for about 72 hours and then it randomly (and miraculously) went away.  I racked my brain trying to figure out what in my apartment had changed to cause such an extreme allergy response. Because of COVID, I really don’t leave my house so I hadn’t been outside.  I haven’t had any windows open. No new animals. I didn’t burn any candles. I was stumped. I thought about the dip powder but felt like that seemed like kind of a stretch.

I decided to redo my nails this past Friday night, not because they needed to be—they were still going strong on Day 10—but because I wanted to because I enjoy it. I removed the existing dip and spent the next hour doing the dip process on my nails. I finished and admired my work, then sat on my couch to watch a few episodes of Chappelle’s Show before going to bed. Within an hour, I noticed the onset of the same symptoms. The first thing I noticed was the sneezing. It was almost constant. I took some allergy medicine and went to bed. I woke up in the middle of the night because I was coughing. When I woke up, I realized how stuffy I was and how terrible I felt. I had a pretty deep sounding cough that actually caused me quite a deal of alarm. When I woke up in the morning I looked terrible. My eyes were swollen and glassy, my nose was simultaneously stuffy and running, I couldn’t stop sneezing and the tightness in my chest had returned. I had to help a friend with a Facebook Live sale and wore a mask the entire time to a) contain my germs and sneezes and b) hopefully hide any disgusting snot that wouldn’t stop leaking from my face. I felt lethargic and run down. I went home and spent the rest of the day in bed.

I decided to do some Googling and see if maybe a dip powder allergy was real. Turns out, it is and it’s not super uncommon. It’s referred to as the “dip powder flu.” It’s basically flu-like symptoms that are caused by using dip powder at home. It is not a Rossi specific issue. Like myself, many people lamented that they have been having dip manicures done in the salon for months, if not years, without a hitch. It seems to be something about being in close proximity to the powders and liquids, as well as possibly having poor ventilation in your home, which causes the allergic reaction. Some people have mentioned wearing masks (ranging from cloth masks or N95 masks or even respirators) but I’m not sure that I want to try.

I don’t think this is a quality issue, I don’t think it has anything to do with Rossi, I just think I am very allergy-prone and unfortunately had a terrible reaction. If you do decide to try an at-home kit, please proceed with caution.

TL;DR

I love this kit, I thought it was great and provided salon-quality nails at home for a fraction of the price. Unfortunately, an allergic reaction means I won’t be using it again.

*I was gifted this kit for free but my thoughts and opinions are my own (obviously).

Buy or Bye: Fenty Slip Shine Sheer Shiny Lipstick

There are certain things in life that I just can’t resist—a fresh-baked cookie; a cold drink on a hot day; a sheer, glossy lipstick. It doesn’t matter how many I have—or how similar they are—I just can’t say no.

I had that Fenty was going to be releasing a new sheer lipstick formula a few months ago on the Trendmood Instagram page. It was supposed to launch in stores in early June—but, obviously, that didn’t happen. The new lipsticks finally launched online late last month (or maybe early this month? Who knows at this point, everything runs together). I really didn’t want to buy them before I  was able to see/swatch them. TBH, that wasn’t a very well-thought-out plan since swatching is pretty much a relic of days gone by, so I ended up buying them in-store without swatching them. I could have had them sooner, but oh well!

THE COLLECTION

Aside from being a tongue twister, Fenty’s new Slip Shine Sheer Shiny Lipstick comes in 10 different ultra-comfortable sheer shades. On top of being comfortable, they’re nourishing (they’re infused with pomegranate butter) and have the perfect amount of color. The brand compares the lipsticks to your favorite pair of jeans—effortless, sexy and good-looking without trying too hard. (I see where they were going with the analogy but jeans are a no from me, dawg).

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Photo courtesy of Fenty Beauty

TOP LEVEL CLAIMS

  • Clinically proven to lock in moisture
  • Lightweight, nourishing lipstick formula
  • Infused with hydrating pomegranate oil
  • Instantly conditions in just one swipe
  • Shiny, builable, creamy texture
  • Available in 10 easy-to-wear shades

MY THOUGHTS

I had high hopes for this product and, naturally, I was not let down. This is the perfect lip product to just throw in your bag and go (I mean, it would have been the perfect product to throw in your bag and go before we were gripped by a deadly pandemic that requires wearing a mask everywhere). It’s like a chapstick in that you can just haphazardly apply it (no mirror required) but it leaves the most gorgeous sheen. It makes your lips look hydrated and glossy but doesn’t feel sticky at all. And, one of the biggest bonuses of all, is that it actually leaves your lips feeling hydrated and softer when you take it off. As someone who wore liquid lipsticks religously and had crusty lips for the better part of a decade, I am 100 percent on board with this gloss trend.

I bought three shades: Makeout Break (a latte nude), Glazed (peachy pink) and Thang Thang (a red orange).

I really just took a shot in the dark when choosing shades but I love all three. I knew that I wanted a nude, and Makeout Break is the perfect nude. If I were to design my own lip product, it would be this formula and this shade. My second favorite color is Thang Thang because I am obsessed with red orange lipsticks right now (I have a blog post on my favorites coming soon). There are 7 more shades that I don’t have that I need to get in my possession immediately:

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Photo courtesy of Fenty Beauty

  • Quarts Candy (clear with pink iridesence)
  • $uga Kiss (Bubblegum pink)
  • Retro Rose (dusty pink)
  • Goji Gang (rosey mauve)
  • Cookies and Cocoa (cocoa berry)
  • Bubblerum (chocolate brown)
  • Vamps who brunch (plum withblue irridesence)

INCLUSION

Rihanna doesn’t fuck around when it comes to inclusivity. There is something for everyone in this collection—because of course there is. There are shades that will work as a “your lips but better” shade on any skintone, as well as a clear gloss and a couple fun pops of color.

TL;DR

Rihanna’s new lip products are amazing and if you don’t own any, you should.

*I bought these lipsticks with my own money, however this post does contain affiliate links meaning I will make a small comission in the event that you choose to purchase anything.